Talking and Listening: Two Ears, One Mouth

January 15, 2018

Okay, let’s get right at it. Why is it so hard to get people to listen to you? For the same reason you don’t like to do it. Listening is an act of surrender--you surrender the agenda to the speaker. You lose control of the conversation. The speaker will probably start telling you what to do (God forbid). You probably know everything the person is going to say (blah, blah, blah; yada, yada, yada). Listening seems weak.

Except that it’s good. And godly. And smart. “He who answers before listening--that is his folly and his shame” (Proverbs 18:13). You can’t learn when you’re talking. Listening shows respect to someone else. Listening first helps you avoid revealing that you don’t know what you’re talking about. Listening first gives you time to organize and focus your thoughts, so that when it is your turn, your words will have greater impact.

Practicing listening to other people is also excellent training to help you listen better to God.

Talking and Listening

January 12, 2018

Walt Disney knew that children wished animals could talk. And so he gave them a talking mouse, duck, and dog, plus an entire chatty menagerie. Even after seven decades of Disney, however, animals still don’t talk. People alone can do that. 

God talks. It was his marvelous decision to share that ability with his children. But with that ability comes serious responsibility. When your mother was comforting you about playground bullies, she encouraged you to shrug off mean words, since “names will never hurt me.” Nice try, Mom, but you know that’s not true. 

Words have enormous power. In fact, “The tongue has the power of life and death” (Proverbs 18:21). Words can crush the life and hope out of a person. Words can help a broken heart start beating again. Words are God’s chosen vehicle for sharing the good news of our Savior Jesus Christ. 

We could all stand a tongue overhaul in God’s shop. Listen first.

"Death and life are in the power of the tongue,and those who love it will eat its fruit."
-Proverbs 18:21

Happy New Year everyone! My prayer is that we will lean on the Holy Spirit as He guides us the right path of life. Our Counselor to help us in times of struggles, pain and even anger! I have experienced Him many times. He is just wonderful and powerful!  When I feel oppressed, I take revenge by being kind to them. But I have to pray for them and give my concerns to the Lord first before I can ask help to pour out kindness to others; that the Lord will refill my "tank of kindness and love" once more. 

I believe life is full of burdens. The toxicity of whatever or wherever we are in sometimes gives us the idea of giving up! "I quit" mentality. But we have to unload this! We have someone whom we can share our burdens with and allow us to get up, pick our mess and move on. 
We may want to be with someone who will be our accountability partner. Someone whom we trust. We all need someone whom we can run to, talk to, someone who will listen to the cry of our hearts. 


I once agreed to the saying "hurting people hurt people." Then I ponder on and ask why should I dig deeper and be attached to it. Why do I need to hurt others when I am hurting? That doesn't glorify my God if I profess I am a follower of Jesus. 
I may not be a lovable person, but I choose to love. I would always excercise love and kindness that comes from Jesus. HE alone can give me that abundantly. For I am also His creation that needs to be molded, to be pruned, to be disciplined and to be equipped so I can glorify His name.

Choose to talk. Choose to listen. 
Choose to be kind. Choose to LOVE. 


Enjoying Life Begins with a Choice

October 08, 2017

Although we don’t always have the power to change every unpleasant circumstance in our lives, we do have the power to change our outlook. Nobody enjoys a troubling or painful circumstance, but I’ve found if we look at it in a hopeful, faith-filled way, we can watch God work all things out for our good (Romans 8:28).

Enjoying life begins with the thoughts you choose to think. Yes, it is that simple! No matter what is going on in your life today, if you will choose happy, hope-filled thoughts based on God’s Word, you will feel happier. Our thoughts are intricately connected to our feelings, so if we want to feel better, we need to think better.

Think of the mind like the gas tank in your automobile. Your automobile will run well, or perhaps not even run at all, depending on what kind of fuel you put into it. In the same way, when you choose your thoughts carefully, your quality of life will improve in amazing ways!
I used to be an extremely negative and critical person. My motto was, “If you don’t expect anything good to happen, then you won’t be disappointed when it doesn’t.” I thought I was protecting myself, but in reality, I was preventing myself from truly enjoying my life and God’s good plan for me. Romans 15:13 says, “May the God of your hope so fill you with all joy and peace in believing…” (AMP) When we choose to be positive and expect and believe God to do great things, it releases joy into our lives!

Sure, there are some people who are born with a temperament that makes it easier for them to look on the bright side of life than others, but even they have to make choices about their thoughts and attitudes toward life.

Be honest with yourself and think about what you have been mentally focusing on and how you have been feeling emotionally and even physically. I feel certain you will see a definite connection. Nothing good comes from thinking sour, critical, and negative thoughts, but something good always comes when we think according to God’s plan for our life.

Make the Mind Connection: Enjoying your life begins with the thoughts you choose to think.

Adapted from The Mind Connection by Joyce Meyer. Copyright © 2015 by Joyce Meyer. Reprinted with permission of FaithWords, a division of Hachette Book Group, Inc. All rights reserved.


Do Not Give Up

September 08, 2017

It's so easy to become complacent at work, especially if you've been working in a company for many years, and have been passed over for a promotion time and time again. After all, what's the whole point of striving to give your best if your boss doesn't even seem to recognize your efforts, right? Complacency can be very dangerous to Christians. The moment we allow the frustration of past disappointments to get the better of us, we begin to lose our hope and peace. If we're not careful, it can even cause us to doubt and question God. 

My friend, God sees all of the hard work you've sown into your career or profession. He is the Big Boss seated in heaven that desires nothing more than for you to live a prosperous and abundant life. It may have taken a while, but in due season, it will come. I challenge you today to keep that spirit of excellence alive while you're at work, regardless of the circumstance. Instead of holding back your skills, talents and abilities, share and invest them into the company. Instead of drifting away and succumbing to complacency, strive to remain consistent and diligent at work. More importantly, don't give any room for doubt to enter your heart or mind. Instead, courageously trust, hope, and believe that God will see you through. Who knows? It might happen next year, next month, next week, or even today! 

PRAYER: Heavenly Father, even though work has been extremely disappointing and frustrating, I know that you're in complete control of everything. I choose not to give in and become complacent at work. Instead, I will continue to do my job with a spirit of excellence that is pleasing to you. I put my complete trust in you that You will come through for me. In Jesus' Name, Amen.


Loving the Stranger

August 29, 2017

You wouldn’t marry a complete stranger, would you? Well – surprise! – if you’re married, that’s exactly what you’ve done.

On our wedding day, we all innocently believe the same myth: that we know and understand the person we’re marrying. But every newlywed eventually discovers that getting to know the depths of someone’s heart takes years. That’s the nature of relationship, especially one as intimate as marriage. So in that sense, we all marry a stranger. We’re in love with what little we know about our spouse, but we don’t know them. Not really.

Maybe that’s why Stanley Hauerwas defines a successful marriage as “learning how to love and care for the stranger to whom you find yourself married.” What does he mean? Simply this: In countless ways, the person we commit to on our wedding day will not be the same person five, ten, or twenty years from now. In fact, neither will we. Marriage changes us. So does raising children, careers, the aging process, and other significant events in our lives.

That’s why it’s important to understand that marriage is not a stopping point where we instantly know our spouse fully and completely. It’s a journey through life between a man and woman, both of whom continually grow and change across their years together. As one speaker said, “When people get married, they tend to believe they’ve found a finished statue, when in reality, they’ve merely found the block of marble from which their spouse will emerge.” Commit to loving your spouse and helping them grow more Christ-like each day.

(Marriage: A Lifelong Journey)


A Beautiful Exchange

August 22, 2017

The beautiful exchange that takes place when we give our lives to God is something we can always be grateful for. Salvation means that we offer God what we have, and He gives us what He has.

He takes all of our sins, faults, weaknesses, and failures, and gives us His ability, His righteousness, and His strength. He takes our diseases and sicknesses and gives us His healing and health. He takes our messed-up, failure-filled past and gives us hope of a bright future.

In ourselves we are nothing; our own righteousness is like filthy rags or a polluted garment (see Isaiah 64:6). But in Christ, we have a future to be thankful for—one worth looking forward to. The term “in Christ” very simply means that we have placed our faith in Him concerning every aspect of our lives. We are in covenant with Almighty God. What an awesome thought!

Prayer of Thanks: Father, when I am feeling inferior or condemned, help me to remember who I am in Christ. Thank You that I’m forgiven, accepted, righteous, strong, and able because I am found in You.


When there seems to be no way

August 19, 2017

Have you ever faced a situation and said, “There is no way this can ever be?” Maybe some of these thoughts weigh on your mind:
  • There is no way I can handle the pressure at work.
  • There is no way I can pay my bills.
  • There is no way to save my marriage.
  • There is no way I can go back to college now.
With God’s help, there is always a way. This is a beautiful truth to be grateful for. It may not be easy; it may not be convenient; it may not come quickly. You may have to go over, under, around, or through difficulty—but if you will simply keep on keeping on, you will find a way. Jesus said in John 14:6, “I am the Way and the Truth and the Life.” He is the Way, and He will help you find a way even where there doesn’t seem to be one.

Prayer of Thanks: Father, I thank You that You have “made a way in the wilderness.” Help me to focus on You and not on my circumstances. Thank You that You are making a way for me today.

(The Power of Being Thankful)


Receiving God's Love

August 18, 2017

Receiving is important in our relationship with God. When we receive from God, we actually take into ourselves what He is offering. As we receive His love, we then have love in us. Once we are filled with God’s love, we can begin loving ourselves. We begin giving that love back to God and loving other people.
The Bible teaches us that the love of God has been poured out in our hearts by the Holy Spirit. That simply means that when the Lord comes to dwell in our hearts because of our faith in His Son Jesus Christ, He brings love with Him, because God is love (see 1 John 4:8).
We all need to ask ourselves what we are doing with the love of God that has been freely given to us. Are we rejecting it because we don’t think we are valuable enough to be loved? Or are we receiving His love with a thankful heart, believing that He is greater than our failures and weaknesses?

Prayer of Thanks: I am grateful, Father, that You love me and that Your love is perfect and unconditional. Help me learn to receive Your love by faith and go through each day knowing that I am valuable because I am loved by my heavenly Father.

(The Power of Being Thankful)


Attitude of Gratitude

August 17, 2017

You and I have many opportunities to complain on a regular basis. But complaining doesn’t do any good; all complaining does is open the door for the enemy. It doesn’t solve problems; it just creates a breeding ground for greater problems.
Instead of complaining, let’s choose to respond to the Lord each day by developing an attitude of gratitude. This is not just an occasional expression of thanks, but a continual lifestyle of thanksgiving. The person who has developed an “attitude of gratitude” is one who is thankful and grateful for every single thing that God is doing in his or her life day by day.

Prayer of Thanks: Father, thank You for the way You provide for every area of my life. Instead of complaining about what I want or about what I don’t have, I choose to be grateful for everything I do have. You have been good to me—thank You for Your goodness.


What is Prayer?

June 06, 2017

Hi there! 
Hi me! 
It's been a while since I last posted my entry. I have been very "busy" these past months. Oh that sad word B-U-S-Y :(
Because of being busy, I got disconnected with people I dearly love. I haven't heard news about them. And that's bitterly sad for me since I cannot take back the time I lost with them.
And same thing with my prayer life. I always remind myself to stay connected with God whom I recognize as my loving Heavenly Father. Reminding myself to make prayer a natural act from my inner desire of communing with Jesus Christ. However, there were times when I do not pray - that I just shut the door of my heart and go with the flow of my everyday "routine" in life. And so things fall apart, and I do get disappointed on things and on people. Then I would ask "God, why do allow these to happen?" And God would point out to me, "My child, why do you allow these things to happen?"

And so I need to get back on my prayer life and reflect or re-evaluate how do I really allow myself grow in faith and wisdom with my Savior Jesus Christ. 
I am not perfect. I still have pleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeenty of flaws. Only the grace of God and by His blood I am able to kneel down at His feet and offer every baggage I still choose to carry. 

These past weeks, I have been reading a book by Keith Williams "Prayer". I have been pondering and asking myself as well "How am I doing in my prayer life?" But first, let me share with you what's in the first chapter of the book.

1. Prayer is a Gift from God.
The Bible teaches that God created man to have fellowship with Him. He created us in love and His desire has always been that we respond to Him in love. Prayer is mysterious. No one claims how it works but somehow, because of God’s grace when we humble ourselves and come before Him we do make contact.
Call to me and I will answer you; I will tell you wonderful and marvelous things that you know nothing about.” – Jeremiah 33:3
When we are willing to pray, God promises to meet us there.

2. Prayer is a Communion with God
Prayer is first of all this flow of conversation between two persons. It is not primarily an outward act; it is an inward expression of the devotion, deepest needs and longings of the heart. Prayer at its best is a dialogue between two persons who love each other. It is a two-way street. We must learn to listen for the voice of God as well as learn to speak to Him.
“As a deer longs for a stream of cool water, so I long for you, O God. I thirst for you, the living God.” – Psalm 42:1-2

3. Prayer is Asking from God
When we ask from God we are recognizing our dependence upon Him for all our needs. In this way we remind ourselves of our proper relationship: creatures looking to the Creator, children looking to a loving Father. We have the promise that when we ask, He hears us. (I John 5:14)
“My grace is all you need, for my power is strongest when you are weak.” – 2 Corinthians 12:9

4. Prayer is a Commitment to God
Prayer is not complete until we are able to place our lives in the hands of God. This keeps prayer from becoming self-centered. God’s way is the best way. Your greatest struggle in prayer will not be in winning your request, but in losing yourself.

This remind my to always commune myself with the God of PEACE in this busy and noisy world.
It is also my prayer that we commit ourselves to Christ, and commune with Him, talk to Him daily not just during the times when we think He is our last resort. 


A Letter to My Son.

February 27, 2017

February 25, 2017
Your daddy and I left our house to visit Tito Jerahmeel before he goes to Japan the next day. We didn't bring you with us for the reason that we'll go straight ahead to church to prepare for the camp's fundraising.
In fact, we left the church late at night. Your daddy and I were exhausted but Jesus truly sustained us, son. We arrived home and you were sleeping soundly with Nanay Monet. We kissed and cuddled you carefully that we didn't want to wake you up. You seemed so peaceful son. I envy you! :) 

February 26, 2017
Church day! Your daddy and I left the house early in the morning to attend the 1st worship service. We needed to prepare for the fundraising after the service. 
And while I was selling books outside the church, with my two big eyes, I saw you with Nanay Monet and Ate Tina! Oh what a joy! You three looked great! Then I hurriedly embraced you and carried you! Until the rest of our church mates willingly took care of you while Mama was busy selling.

My dearest son Asher David,

          I really wanted to say SORRY for the time your daddy and I missed over the weekend. I felt incomplete knowing I didn't spend most of my time with you on Saturday. I know you're just a baby (and you will always be MY baby!) assuming that everything's fine with you, that you can't understand our situation yet because you're just a baby. But as your mother, I can deeply sense our lack of time with you these past weeks. I am sorry anak.

         By the time you are accountable with all these emotions, responses, I want you to know that as early as now, I recognize what you feel son. It may not be clear yet though, but as your mother, I can sense it.  And I just want to say I am sorry and I really hope and pray that we can make it up to you. So we can make bawi. That we can also bring you with us on weekends in church. It is tiring son. But by the grace and power of Jesus, we are sustained and renewed daily. 

        Many are looking forward for you to play drums and sing songs for Jesus! and I want you to know that your daddy and I are your number one fan! :)



Marriage: Just Like a Pair of Shoes

November 28, 2016

November 27, 2016

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On my way to meet my husband at Lucky Chinatown mall so we’ll be together going to our Young Couples’ Seminar at GCM located at Stateland building. Given the map on the side was my trail walking towards the place. I was complaining as I felt so exhausted and my feet were tired. It was the best way to reach my destination rather than to take a tricycle.
Upon meeting my husband, I rested under the air-conditioner located at the exit door of the mall. And so we’re about to go to Stateland. And my husband was ready to walk. I was complaining and nagging about my exhaustion – that I haven’t regained my strength yet. But I yielded and walked.

To cut my story short, as we got back home. I saw my husband’s pair of shoes. It was almost broken. The inner part of his shoes was torn and I can’t imagine how my husband managed to walk using his 3 year old shoes. I felt ashamed. Not because my husband’s shoes was almost near of saying good bye, but because of my attitude towards him earlier. I felt naked and ashamed before the Lord how I treated my husband with such behavior. And so I hurriedly laid down my emotion towards my husband, embraced him and told him “Hppy, sorry. Nakakahiya yung ginawa ko kanina. Nagrereklamo ako sa pagod ko sa paglalakad kanina. Pero yung shoes mo, malapit na masira. It shows kung gaano mo siya gamit na gamit. Nakakahiya ako sa reklamo ko.” I cried and hugged him while he was sleeping soundly.

The next day, he was curious whether he just had a dream or was it real that I cried. Then I told the same thing again.

I realized how powerless I am without the Holy Spirit. I praise the Lord that I was able to recognize my weaknesses toward what I claim was my strength. I love the Lord and I pray that I would really  honor Him by honoring my husband and our marriage.

Our marriage is just like a pair of shoes. It looks new and shiny for a day because it was shone for a purpose. Then, days would pass without noticing the dusts on it yet would still wear it the next day. We assumed to be okay but we know we were not. There were underlying issues or misunderstanding that needs to be resolved, yet we still choose to "wear" it. Until the pair of shoes would make us feel uncomfortable urging us to let it go and have a new one. We, as a couple must let go of our issues and misunderstanding before the Lord who is the Author of our story. We must both agree that we're not a perfect couple without blemish. Having a new pair of shoes would mean having a new and refreshing perspective from the Holy Spirit on how the Lord designed our marriage. 

And just like a pair of shoes, if one is missing or absent, then it wouldn't be called a PAIR. A husband and a wife is a pair, a team, and partners. But the Lord Almighty is the main character of the picture called MARRIAGE for He orchestrated everything perfectly!


Respect is something we should earn and give.

April 22, 2013

My heart breaks to see people bullying each other, probably a way of making fun of other people? to be entertained? to get attention from others ? I don't know. Right now, my heart is crying. This applies to all -Christians and Non-Christians. I hope and I pray we could learn to respect others; learn how to earn respect from others as well.

While browsing the internet, I saw this article. I was rebuked and reminded. We are not perfect. But God called us to be PERFECT in His terms not ours.

Respect Others—Even if They Haven't Earned It

(How to Respect People Who Don't "Deserve" Respect)

Show proper respect to everyone (1 Peter 2:17).

Introduction: It can be hard to respect others.

When counseling with couples, I often hear one person say something along the lines of, "He (or she) hasn't earned my respect." Parents often say this of their teenage children. Most of us slip into this way of thinking when we talk about politicians.

It's normal to feel this way, yet it isn't the attitude God wants us to have. We can be aware of others' faults, and there may be times when we need to confront sin, yet the Bible tells us that we need to maintain an attitude of respect for everybody.

May these guidelines, adapted from Chapter 5 of the book Encourage Your Spouse, help you develop a godly, respectful attitude toward those around you.

Show respect because God commands it.

A good starting point is to respect others because God said to. For example, we read in the Bible that husbands and wives are to respect their spouse:
... and the wife must respect her husband (Ephesians 5:33).

Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect ... (1 Peter 3:7).
The same principle applies to other relationships. Peter wrote that we should show respect to everyone and honor the king, although the king in those days was an evil person (1 Peter 2:17).

Respect others because of their position.

You can respect your spouse, child, parent, boss or others because of their position. For example, after David killed Goliath, he became more popular than King Saul. Saul became jealous and determined to kill David, so David fled.

Saul gathered his army and chased David. On two different occasions, when Saul’s army was pursuing David, David had the chance to kill Saul.

Most of us would say that David had every right to kill Saul. After all, Saul was trying to kill him. Yet although he knew that Saul’s actions did not deserve respect, David honored Saul as his king and refused to kill him. At his second opportunity to kill Saul, David said, "The LORD forbid that I should lay a hand on the LORD’S anointed" (1 Samuel 26:11).

God wants you to respect others because of their position in your life.

Acknowledge that others have weaknesses.

Everyone is imperfect. Be careful not to let their failures erode your respect for their good qualities.

Look for things that you can respect.

You can find something to respect in anybody if you look hard enough.

Respect others as children of God.

When with Christians, you are with God’s children and should honor them accordingly—regardless of how they are acting. (When with non-Christians, respect is still necessary!)

Respect others as made in the image of God.

The Bible says, "For in the image of God has God made man" (Genesis 9:6). Whether or not someone is a Christian, honor him or her as God’s creation.

Honor others because God loves them.

The Bible says, "This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins" (1 John 4:10). Do not dishonor someone God loves.

Respect others' desire to be good people.

Your husband, wife, child, boss or employee may make foolish decisions. He or she may be lazy and forgetful. Yet chances are good he or she wants to be a good person and do the right thing. You can respect the desire of someone's heart even if you are disappointed by his or her actions.

Honor others for their potential.

See others as God does. Each of us has an amazing potential. Gideon was a fearful man, living hidden from the enemy, yet the angel of the Lord greeted him by saying, "The Lord is with you, mighty warrior" (Judges 6:12). The angel’s greeting was not because of anything Gideon had done, but because he knew how God planned to use Gideon.

Personal application:

Who is someone you have had trouble respecting?

Which of these insights will help you treat him or her with more respect ... even if he or she has not "earned" your respect? 

(c) 2005 by Doug Britton (Permission granted to print for personal use)

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